On choosing the park
In this very short 7mins episode, I talk about choosing to go to the park instead of doing a longer episode as I had planned - making good enough choices and honouring other areas of my life.
I also point to related older podcasts that talked about issues around burnout, obsessive vs harmonious passion, self care, planning:
Jolanta Burke on burnout, harmonious passion, positive workplaces & helping others (from 2017)
Anna Cox on family, work & strategies for making the changes we want (from 2017)
Amy Ko on being reflectively self-aware, deliberately structured, & amazingly productive (also from 2017)
Transcript
Welcome to Changing Academic Life.
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:I'm Geraldine Fitzpatrick, and this is
a podcast series where academics and
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:others share their stories, provide
ideas, and provoke discussions about what
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:we can do individually and collectively
to change academic life for the better.
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:A very short follow-up to the
conversations with Irina, which
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:were just amazingly raw and
honest and insightful and full of.
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:Nuggets that we can all learn from.
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:And this is going to be a walk,
the talk learning here as well.
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:But before I get to that.
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:I just want to explain the lack of intro
music in some of the past episodes.
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:And it's because I'm moving to this new
platform and there's this great tool
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:for cleaning up the audio and removing
some of the background noise and reverb.
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:It also is removing my music though.
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:So I'm not going to use
the tool for this episode.
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:You will have heard the music here.
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:I'm in discussions with the platform,
people to see what we can do about it.
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:And.
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:For the past ones where
it didn't have the music.
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:You'll just have to sing the tune to
yourself in your own head for now.
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:And, uh, What I had wanted to do
in follow up to what Irina talked
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:about was actually walk through some
of the literature around burnout.
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:Some of the signs to look
out for some strategies.
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:I also considered talking about some
strategies for saying yes and no.
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:And in particular for those
things that we really want to do.
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:I think sometimes I don't know about you,
but sometimes I find it easier to say
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:no to things that I don't want to do.
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:But yeah, it's that thing of, as,
as Irina talked about, you know, the
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:opportunities that come along that you've
always wanted to do, so you tend to
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:say yes, and how we often underestimate
how much time that might take.
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:And.
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:Find ourselves pushed to the limit.
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:And so I think some of that can be the
hardest thing to deal with and that's
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:the case here, because I'm not going
to do what I had intended to do.
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:Uh, because it's been a
busier week than I expected.
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:Again, not having realistic estimates
of how much time some planning would take
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:me for running some workshops next week.
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:And then I'm traveling, um, tomorrow.
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:So it's a beautiful day today
and I can choose to spend the
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:day in the study doing the.
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:Uh, recording and doing the
research and developing the script.
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:Or I can do a short thing where I'm still
going to connect and use the time to go
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:out for a walk or for a run or whatever.
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:So, uh, in that way,
walking the talk a bit.
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:Just in the issue around saying
yes, I think it was Dan Harris
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:had this lovely turn of phrase
about drowning in chocolate.
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:And we often think about work and
overwhelm and all the things that,
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:you know, the myriad things that we
have on our plates to do at any time.
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:And we often have that analogy
of sort of drowning in work.
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:And sometimes I think that when it's
the good stuff, we think we shouldn't be
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:drowning and I can point you back to a.
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:Uh, previous episode from a couple
of years ago with your Jolanta Burke.
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:Who talked about her
burnout experiences as well.
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:And she talked about the
difference between obsessive
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:passion and harmonious passion.
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:And how, even when you're doing lots
of things that you really love doing,
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:and you're really excited about.
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:You can still burn out.
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:And the literature often points to
the fact that you may take a little
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:bit longer to burn out and it may be
not as severe, but you still burn out.
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:And I love that thing about that analogy
of drowning in chocolate that, you know,
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:you're you think that swimming in this
sea of chocolate could be this amazing
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:thing and you're doing all this fun stuff.
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:But you still drown, whether
you're drowning in water
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:or chocolate or whatever.
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:And so, yeah, I think that's, uh,
that may be something for us all to
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:reflect on about, especially how do we.
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:Let go, those opportunities that
we've always wanted or that we
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:know would be really great to do.
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:I can sort of say that at this end of
my career there is a perspective of
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:the whole arc of your career and that
other opportunities do come around.
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:So it's not a total miss out and it
may not be that exact same opportunity,
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:but there can be other opportunities.
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:And it's worth thinking about that
longer term perspective and how
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:do we, and I'm talking to myself
here, how do we make decisions
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:that enable us to still be there?
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:For the longer term to take
up those new opportunities.
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:When we have a little bit
more capacity to do them.
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:Uh, instead of the sort of up and
down of burn recover, burn, recover.
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:And that that's the whole challenge
about how do we create more sustainable?
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:Cultures where we can still be excited
about work and do lots of great stuff.
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:So I will link.
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:Uh, in the show notes here to
the conversation with Jolanta.
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:I'll also link to the conversations
with Anna Cox and Amy Ko who
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:both talked in some detail about
their own planning strategies.
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:Um, Irina talked about the
value of tracking and they had
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:some particular strategies.
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:And again, like everyone, I think.
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:You know, struggles with them in some way.
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:I know that Anna has also written
some subsequent blog posts and
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:done research on this as well.
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:And so worth following up on those.
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:So in the spirit of good
enough, I will leave it here.
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:Uh, wish you a good week and
I'm heading out to the park.
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:Bye
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a transcript, and related
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